The answer to this is: somewhat.
We live in a very small town. We don’t go advertising our relationship to others because, frankly, it’s none of their damn business.
Some of my family knows. My cousin, my cousin’s husband, my other cousin’s wife. All of Daddy’s family knows. They just label us as “kinky as fuck” and let us go on about our business. My family is equally as respectful (at least those that know…)
We answer questions as they come up. Some know. Some do not.