How socially connected is your submission? Do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?
We participate in our local community monthly. We also have friends that are in the lifestyle whom we socialize with when the schedule allows. Most of my support an education about submission has been online. From the beginning, I’ve reached out through a computer screen. I first discovered this lifestyle in the early 2000s. At that time the resources online were limited. However, that being said, in all honesty-the resources were more pure. Less Christian Grey. Now there are many people out there saying they know what’s “right.” Here’s the problem with that: what is the right way for me to submit, may not be the right way for you to submit. I’m very anti Fifty Shades (as I sit listening to the very good soundtrack.)
Fifty Shades to me (and in all fairness, I’ve only seen the first one. I tried to read the first one, but couldn’t get through it) is the quintessential unhealthy relationship. If Mr. Grey wasn’t rich, his behaviors outside the bedroom would be unhealthy. The relationship would be abusive. I’ve been in abusive relationships. I’m not going backwards. My relationship is healthy and in so many ways different from how the mainstream media portrays this type of relationship. It’s disappointing.
Anywho, that was a tangent.
Community is vital. It’s why people crave family gatherings, church gatherings, and yes, kinky gatherings. I’m not so much about play parties-I’ve never been to one because of fear. Social anxiety and all… I do enjoy our gatherings and munches that we’ve been to. The support of the community is important.