I have been submissive as long as I can remember. I think being brought up in a very religious but abusive household was the perfect mixture for arriving into adulthood as a kinkster.
I started having sex at 24. Even before then I knew I was kinky. I also knew I was bisexual. Service and submission are a part of my sexual makeup.
When I get into my submissive space in my head, it is unlike anything else I have ever experienced in my life. Like floating. It can happen while playing, or while serving, or while communicating about the relationship. It just depends. Trust me. When you hit that space, you’ll know.